Gabrielle Union‘s journey toward motherhood involved a decent amount of letting go for her to come aroundto the idea of using a surrogate, eventually welcoming daughterKaavia Jameswith husbandDwyane Wadein November.
She opens up now in an interview forShondalandabout how she and Wade settled on the decision to use a surrogate after Unionsuffered multiple miscarriagesand failed IVF cycles — and the community they found was an overwhelmingly supportive one.
“That’s how you get your information: doctors, acupuncturists, different therapies,” she continues. “Once this group of people takes you into their arms, you’re like, ‘Oh, okay! There’s so many of you!’ ”
“[At first], she didn’t know that it was us, although I knew all about her,” saystheBeing Mary Janestar. “So when we met, she walked in and was like, ‘Oh!’ I didn’t know what that meant, and she was like, ‘I have your book on hold at four different libraries.’ I said, ‘I think I can get you a copy!’ ”
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“I’d been doing a lot of library appearances with the book, and I love librarians, and here’s this woman who also frequents her local library,” she recalls. “In that first meeting, we talked about the books we love, the stacks of books we want to get through.Little Fires Everywhere, so many more. That, for me, was the sign.”
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Union shares withShondalandthat for her and herrecently retired NBA legend husband, “Race wasn’t an issue” in selecting who would carry their child.
“For us, we wanted: She has her own kids, a husband, she’s done this before, she knew what she was doing,” Union says. “There was no need for us to micromanage.”
source: people.com
