Reese WitherspoonandJim Toth’s split comes after they’d “been spending less time together” due to Witherspoon’s busy work schedule, a source tells PEOPLE.
But “they didn’tcome to the decision to divorceeasily and hastily. It took a long time,” the insider adds. “This is so hard for both of them. There’s no drama. These decisions are so difficult when there is so much friendship and love there.”
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Jim Toth and Reese Witherspoon in 2016.Jamie McCarthy/Getty
TheOscarwinner, 47, and her talent-agent husband, 52, are ending their marriage, they announced in a joint statement on Friday, days before their 12-year wedding anniversary on Sunday.
In their statement Friday, Witherspoon and Toth said: “It is with a great deal of care and consideration that we havemade the difficult decision to divorce,” they said. “We have enjoyed so many wonderful years together and are moving forward with deep love, kindness and mutual respect for everything we have created together.”
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“Our biggest priority is our son and our entire family as we navigate this next chapter,” the former couple added. “These matters are never easy and are extremely personal. We truly appreciate everyone’s respect for our family’s privacy at this time.”
The source tells PEOPLE of Witherspoon and Toth’s early connection, “After she wasset up with Jim, their relationship movedquickly.”
Witherspoon and Toth are parents to 10-year-old sonTennessee, while the actress also has two kids with ex-husbandRyan Phillippe: daughterAva Phillippe, 23, and sonDeacon Phillipe, 19.
“They love Tennessee, and this is their focus,” said a source Friday. “They will continue to co-parent amicably. There is no drama.”
Another insider told PEOPLE that day that the decision was made with the whole family in mind.
“They really are the best of friends and this is such an amicable decision,” the source said of Witherspoon and Toth’s split.
They added, “They are socommitted to co-parenting together. They are invested in their whole family and making this as smooth as possible for everyone.”
source: people.com
